A More Generous Mindset: Choosing to See the Best in Others

Lately, I've been reflecting a lot on mindset—how what we focus on shapes our experiences. James Clear, one of my favorite thinkers, has this quote that stuck with me: "Spend today interpreting whatever people do in the most generous way. See if you feel better as a result." It's a simple challenge but also profoundly radical in a divided world.

It's easy to assume the worst about people. A short text feels dismissive. A driver cuts you off, and you instantly label them inconsiderate. Someone disagrees with you, and suddenly, they become the enemy. But what if we chose to see things differently? What if we assumed misunderstanding, distraction, or even a bad day instead of assuming bad intent? What if we gave people the same grace we hoped they'd provide us with?

I've been working on this myself. I even set an alarm on my phone to remind me to respond to others with love. It's a small shift, but it's already changed how I engage with people—less frustration, more patience, and, honestly, a lighter heart. But I know there's always more we can do.

We can practice pausing before reacting, asking ourselves: Is there a more generous way to interpret this? We can remind ourselves that people are the only experts on themselves—jumping to conclusions about their intent only deepens the divide. We can make kindness our default, choosing connection over conflict. And perhaps most importantly, we can focus on what unites us rather than what separates us.

I'm accepting Clear's challenge. I'm choosing to assume the best, to see through a lens of understanding rather than judgment. Do you want to join me and see if we feel better?

Love and light,

Shelley